why social plans wipe you out before you even arrive

why social plans wipe you out before you even arrive

why social plans wipe you out before you even arriveMel Stibbs
Published on: 03/06/2026

A simple coffee catch-up shouldn't be stressful. Learn why ADHD brains overthink everyday plans and how masking, anxiety, and rejection sensitivity play a role.

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I know you feel guilty. Even when you know better.

I know you feel guilty. Even when you know better.

I know you feel guilty. Even when you know better.Mel Stibbs
Published on: 13/05/2026

Setting boundaries shouldn't feel scary, yet many ADHD and AuDHD women experience guilt when putting themselves first. Here's why—and what helps.

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It's February and you still don't have a plan (don't panic)

It's February and you still don't have a plan (don't panic)

It's February and you still don't have a plan (don't panic)Mel Stibbs
Published on: 03/02/2026

Still don't have a business plan and it's already February? Your ADHD brain didn't fail — the timeline did. Here's why traditional planning doesn't work for ADHD, and what actually does.

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Stop telling ADHDers “Everyone feels that way"

Stop telling ADHDers “Everyone feels that way"

Stop telling ADHDers “Everyone feels that way"Mel Stibbs
Published on: 27/01/2026

"Everyone feels like an imposter sometimes!" — sure. But ADHD imposter syndrome comes with 30 years of receipts. Here's why it hits differently, and what actually helps.

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